* I was off work yesterday attending the funeral of my uncle. Actually my step-uncle which in this case (step) really doesn't matter because my step-fathers family has been a big of a part of my life as my family on my fathers side ever has and ever will.
* I was also a pallbearer and was honored to do so. Funny thing, that was the 8th time that I have been a pallbearer for someone, I hope that I have paid back enough so far for 8 people to carry me somewhere some day. Did that make sense?
* Funeral thoughts. And this is going to get deep. I watched my cousin mourn the loss of his father yesterday. reflecting back since yesterday I have wondered if I would even have the same emotions for my own father. My father has never been that big a part of my life. I say "never" literally. He was around in the first 17 years of my life but was never a father to me. Papa Harold has been my father and always will be. I love my father, but not the way I love Papa Harold. I respect my father, but not like I respect Papa Harold. During my younger years my father would take me fishing occasionally, hunting when it wasn't a burden to him and assisting him in the the work around the house when he needed it. He didn't teach me the things that I know today. Those things were taught to me by either my grandfather, or Papa Harold. My father didn't have any patience. I remember hollering and screaming when even the most simple of tasks didn't go according to plans. Papa Harold has taught me patience and that getting excited and mad isn't going to do anything but make the issue worse. I still struggle with that everyday. So to answer my own question, no, I doubt that I would have the same emotions that my cousin did towards his father.
* I don't want you to think that my father is a bad person or a monster either. He had his own agenda back then and he worked hard to make a living for us. After my mother and him split up, he started a new life with a new family. He chose for that family to be the biggest part of his life. He helped to raise four other children and watch them grow up and move away, always working long, hard hours to provide for them.
* In the last few years I think he has realized that he missed some great moments in his life with the birth of three grandchildren of his own blood and a multitude of stepchildren, step-grandchildren and step-great grandchildren, and has started to slowly enter back into their lives.
* I don't know where all that came from, just needed to get it off my chest I suppose.
* There was a lady that sang Amazing Grace at the funeral that should be an Opera singer. She hit some really high notes.
* My uncle had a lot of friends. Rest In Peace James Reasoner.
* Shifting gears.....After Sundays race at Phoenix, Tony Stewart is still trailing Carl Edwards in the points championship by three points. Neither gaining or losing anything. Tony had the better car all day, but after a late tire pressure adjustment under caution, it took him 20 laps for his car to get back to where it was earlier. By then
* By virtue of the points system, only Carl or Tony can win the championship. Both have a big enough lead going into Miami, that either could crash on the first lap and finish in the points championship 1or 2.
* So it comes down to who can either win the race, or lead laps, or lead the most laps. It's going to be a battle to the end and I can't wait for it to get here.
* Tony has the momentum and Carl has consistency. Which will overcome? Sunday we will know!
* Time to get to work, see ya Around The Corner!
EDIT: Yes I watched the race, Just had my names wrong. My bad.
EDIT EDIT: I also want to throw a shout out to my sister and brother in law who I failed to mention when I saluted other Veterans on Friday. I sometimes forget that my B-law is retired Air Force and my sister served in Desert Storm. Again.....my bad. Love ya Sis.
7 comments:
I thought it amazing that TS and CE stayed the same number of points apart after Saturday's race.
I believe this is Tony's year and am pulling for him.
I, too, had an amazing step father who came into my life when I was 19 y/o. Even at that age he taught me a lot about what a man should be and more than any one I have ever known he walked like he talked.
I understood that he had a serious temper problem when he was young but conquered it as he matured. The strongest expletive I ever heard him utter was something that sounded like, " Kuuuuuuuuuuuuuu."
I'm sorry about your Uncle. It certainly takes more than DNA to make a father, doesn't it? God bless good step-dads, who's job is harder from the very start.
Denny Hamlin did what?
You didn't watch the race did you?
Totally off track of today's topic, sorry for the passing, but I wanted to stop and say hi. I've read your blog for a little over a year now. Last week I had to have outpatient surgery in Decatur and got to meet your wife. She was very nice, very professional. I know you're very proud of her and have every reason to be. We already had a common aquaintance as my son is good friends with Mr Answer's daughter. Anyway I really enjoy the blog, keep up the good work as long as you feel you have something to say.
Oh Wendell....speaking of the comment from the funeral that hit me was that some people think of others as a ship that will never sink. Even though it was at a different Uncle's funeral... I think a lot of us think of Uncle Harold as that!!!! He has been a part of many lives. Even before your time, Laura, Steve and Karen and I would teasingly think about how to get rid of our parents so Uncle Harold would have to take us....as he was our legal guardian!!! Love you and so good to see you ....even under the circumstances....and I would be glad to be one of your eight to carry your box.......
Juanita
I hope Harold reads your blog & knows how highly you think of him. You are a good man, W, & Harold's & Dorothy's influence on you shows that. Mo
Hey Cuz I sometimes wonder where you and I would've ended up if not for our summers with our Grandfather .
And as far as Uncle Harold goes Im still learning from him and the only men I respect more are my father and grandfather.
Also gotta throw it out there Cuz I'd be proud to carry ya but let's just plan on you not going anywhere to soon alright.
Love ya Bro
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